It’s eclipse season, and that means that many of us are going to be undergoing major changes in our lives. And by major, we mean changes that will last or have an impact on our daily lives for up to six months.
Eclipses are Moon cycles that amplify the power of New Moons and Full Moons. New Moon solar eclipses are about new beginnings. But Full Moon lunar eclipses are about endings. And because the Moon rules our emotions, many of the changes in our lives during eclipse season mean that our relationships are going to change. These can be good changes, but under lunar eclipses, most of the time those changes are endings.
You know what the old song goes, “breaking up is hard to do?” While we can prepare you as much as possible for the actual eclipse events, you also need a little eclipse aftermath self-care, particularly in the way of relationships. So today, we are going to look at how to move past relationship changes under lunar eclipses to heal your broken heart not just for today… but for the rest of the year.
Let’s have a look at how to heal heartbreak through lunar eclipses and beyond.
Why Do Lunar Eclipses Cause Heartbreak?
Lunar eclipses are all about surprise information, and this surprise information is what will lead to a change in your relationship. You or someone else hears or discovers something, and then a break happens. So this is the quick answer to this question. Lunar eclipses lead to heartbreak because we don’t like these little surprises.
Eclipses, particularly lunar eclipses, are often fretted over because of the change that they cause. Lunar eclipses are most worried about because solar eclipses occur under a New Moon and are all about new beginnings. The Earth is very dark here as the Moon blocks the solar energy. We do not have all of the information we need to make good relationship choices. We can still launch new beginnings, but we do so in the dark a little bit.
Because of this New Moon, under solar eclipses, most changes that occur are not only beginnings, but are directly connected to male energy. Most new beginnings now are likely going to be related to a man in your life, regardless of what gender you are now. You can still see male energies leave your life, as some beginnings occur after an ending.
Lunar eclipses are the opposite in two ways. First, the Moon’s energy is blocked as the Moon is passing behind the Sun. And when the Moon is blocked, our emotions are stifled too.
Our relationships are guided by our emotions and instinct, and the planet that rules our emotions is the Moon. In a lunar eclipse, that planet is blocked a little. We can’t see the forest through the trees. And, when we don’t have information in our relationships, we freak out a little bit. Sometimes too much. Sometimes just enough. This often leads to endings.
Breakups happen. Our emotions are all over the map now, and this is going to amplify the sense of our heartbreaks.
Not all relationships will end now. But some will. With Mercury retrograde in effect until August 1, 2019, a rewind in time is also going to amplify the probability of breakups. So if your relationship is tenuous at best right now, you may have some problems.
But don’t worry. Everything happens for a reason. This is your Destiny.
Every breakup is the Universe’s way of saying, hey, honey, this isn’t good enough for you. I have something better. Just wait.
Here is your lunar eclipse heartbreak checklist if your emotions are more overwhelming than you’d like.
Lunar Eclipse Heartbreak Checklist
When it comes to heartbreak under a lunar eclipse, there is a too much information moment happening. And not the TMI kind. You are on emotion overload., and you don’t know how to handle it.
Take a big breath, and use this checklist to navigate any emotional overwhelm or heartbreak.
• Put down the phone.
Step away from social media. This is most important for women, as we are the ones that usually need this advice the most. And as mentioned, lunar eclipses are generally female-centred. This is the time when you need to give yourself and your lover a time out. Creeping their Facebook page or texting nonstop about the “why’s” and the “how did this happen” moments.
Put down the phone. Step away from social media. Give yourself 30 days of no contact and see what happens. You’ll be glad you did. If you look back at past breakups and heartbreak and how you reacted, you’ll remember that going text crazy only caused more problems after the fact. Step away from the phone. Unplug your lover, and give yourself a 30-day grace period. When that information arrives, you’ll thank yourself and give yourself a pat on the back for your temperance and prudence on the matter.
• Wait for it.
Eclipses are always about information that we do not yet have to make big decisions. The information, and sometimes that information is secrets, is eclipsed. So if you are heartbroken and confused, don’t badger your lover. Wait for it. Like the old Green Day song says, “every new beginning is the start of some other beginning’s end,” there may be an ending now. But that only means a new beginning is just around the corner.
You don’t want to wait right now. I get that. I’ve been there. But if you do, you’ll see that the wait was oh so worth it. I’ve been there too. Sometimes not knowing what the beginning is will be the best part of this change. New opportunities are everywhere now, and may even have been there before this happened. Waiting for beginnings gives you time for the clarity you need to make informed decisions.
• Expect random events.
Things are happening out of the blue like crazy now. That is what an eclipse does. At first, you can’t see what that is. Then you will. This is the exciting part of the change. And you may not see this for a big. But random events are happening, and that is something you can get excited about, even if one of those random things is a breakup. It may not just be one thing. But it may be as well
• Time moves like lightning.
One good thing about eclipses is that your schedule of events in love will move fast.
Let’s say you were expecting to be engaged in about a year. It might happen today instead. That’s the beautiful thing about eclipses. The changes that you need in your life happen, at lightning speed. If you’ve been hemming and hawing about someone that’s not treating you well, Universe will send an event that snaps it in half for you.
• Embrace the greater good.
When things happen quickly and beyond our control, it is always for the greater good. We often stay in relationships because it is safe and it is what we know, even if we are being emotionally abused, or just not valued for our Higher Self. So, if you are on the fence about ending this, the Universe may well make that decision for you. Embrace it.
• Value yourself.
To thine own self be true. One of the hardest parts about relationships is that we are sometimes not treated for our full worth, and we don’t admit it because we want a partner and will even stay with someone that isn’t worth it.
The Universe wants what is best for you. If you aren’t being treated your worth, you may be ingrained with the notion that you don’t deserve better. You do. And if you won’t get it, sometimes the Universe gets it for you.
If you’re experiencing changes in your love life, then it is likely caused by the lunar eclipse, which bears endings when the Full Moon in Capricorn and lunar eclipse arrives on July 16, 2019. But don’t worry. Prepare for the change, prepare for not having all of the information you need right now, and prepare to embrace the change. This is your Destiny.
And remember, we are also in a Mercury retrograde right now in the Fire sign of Leo. And breakups in a Mercury retrograde often have a way of bouncing back. This may not last forever. It may just last. Maybe you need a little break to sort a big issue out, and then it will repair itself. Or maybe you just need an eternal time out from this person because the Universe has someone better for you.
Does it feel like your standards in love aren’t being met? Are you being treated your value and worth? A “no” to EITHER of these two questions means the Universe has a higher plan for you. Either someone needs to change, or you do. Get ready for the love of your dreams, even if you have heartbreak right now. This news could make every breakup… exciting, almost.
It’s always sad to say goodbye. But it’s always exciting to say hello. Your Summer lovin’ could well be just around the corner. How are you going to find the relationship that meets your worth?
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