Do you ever have questions about your relationships? Almost everyone does at some point — and that curiosity is just a part of being human.
One of the most basic elements of human nature is our natural curiosities, concerns, and questions about the people in our lives. Of course, we can never know everything fully and completely about the people we are hoping to relate to, so this means we will always have questions about them.
Sometimes we can get those answers from astrology, but astrology is only one tool. On the other hand, the Tarot is another tool that can offer insight into our relationships and add another dimension of understanding that astrology might sometimes miss.
Below is a love and relationship Tarot spread that can illuminate any shadows lurking in your relationships and answer many of the questions you might have about a loved one!
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A 7-Card Relationship Tarot Spread
When using this spread, bring to mind an individual you would like to examine your relationship with. This can be a romantic partner, a friend, or even a family member — all kinds of relationships can leave us with questions, after all!
Bring them to mind, focus on your connection as you shuffle, and pull a Tarot card for each spread position below.
- Card 1: What is the overarching energy of our relationship in the present?
- Card 2: What was the overarching energy of our relationship in the past?
- Card 3: What do I want and expect from the relationship?
- Card 4: What does (name of other person) want and expect from the relationship?
- Card 5: How do I currently impact our relationship?
- Card 6: How does (name of other person) currently impact our relationship?
- Card 7: What is a weak spot in our relationship that I should be aware of?
Are you still stumped? Below is an example of what this spread might look like in practice…
Example Tarot Spread for Relationships
1. What is the overarching energy of our relationship in the present?
The Fool represents the beginning of a new path somehow, so perhaps the relationship at hand is either new or has a “clean slate” kind of energy at the moment.
Nevertheless, this spread position informs us overall of what underlies the relationship as a whole and gives us context for whatever cards we may see next.
2. What was the overarching energy of our relationship in the past?
Asking about the past context of the connection in question is important because it informs us of important background that might even lend insight into the present.
In this case, The Tower indicates that some sort of major upheaval or life change had recently occurred for one or both parties, which can definitely affect how both are feeling in the present day.
3. What do I want and expect from the relationship?
4 of Wands
Spread positions three and four in this spread show us if both parties are on the same page — or the other hand, if their interests conflict.
With the 4 of Wands coming up first in this example, you would be interested in creating a lasting foundation for this connection. Even in a romantic situation, this card would also emphasize the importance of a strong platonic bond supporting the stability of the connection.
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4. What does (name of other person) want and expect from the relationship?
2 of Wands
Because the 2 of Wands is about new enthusiasm and planning, the other party in this situation may see a lot of potential within the relationship but hasn’t quite figured out what this looks like practically.
As we just discussed, the information from spread position 3 makes it easy to see if these perspectives conflict. In this situation, both parties may not exactly be on the same page but seem optimistic about the future of the connection in general.
5. How do I currently impact our relationship?
8 of Pentacles
Cards five and six in this spread show us how both parties are currently working to create the energy that is at play. In this example, with the 8 of Pentacles, you would be hard at work to make the connection thrive.
Earthy pentacles’ energy adds a practical, goal-oriented mindset to the situation as well.
6. How does (name of other person) currently impact our relationship?
2 of Cups
The 2 of Cups indicates an almost honeymoon-like attitude and definitively shows that the other party involved has a lot of interest, affection, and joyous emotion towards the querent.
Although both cards we received for cards five and six are extremely positive, the other party may not be as grounded or practical as the 8 of Pentacles energy, so at times the relationship can feel out of sync.
7. What is a weak spot in our relationship that I should be aware of?
5 of Wands
This spread position might illuminate areas of conflict that you may not have considered or been aware of.
This particular couple must be conscious of quarrels and arguments, which may not always stem from inside the connection. The 5 of Wands can also indicate that outside parties and external influences are getting in the way.
Be Cautious About Jumping In
A word of caution to consider before jumping head-first into a relationship Tarot spread is to really think about that question you want to be answered.
Never come to the Tarot only expecting to get the answer you want; this spread might not be for you if you’re only expecting sunshine and rainbows.
If you are ready to embrace all of the potential ahead for the growth and strengthening of your relationships, then a relationship Tarot reading is the most exciting way to do that. In receiving honest insight into potential areas of weakness in your relationships, they can ultimately come out much stronger.
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